Do you have things that motivate you? Those big events you're going to attend that make you want to lose weight? The upcoming weddings, the vacations, the reunions? These things can be great motivators to help propel us forward.
Then we soon discover...those events...they come and then they go.
Like riding a roller coaster, with its ups and downs, the comings and goings of motivations can leave us feeling vulnerable to failure. It's like just as soon as we reach a new height, we plunge, because that event is over.
That's because we've had it drilled into us that motivation is the key...but it's not.
It's never about motivation, it's about determination.
Motivations come and go. Accomplishments comes from determination. What are you determined to do?
What you are determined to do is what you will actually accomplish.
With determination, you pick up a cause. Whatever that cause is.
If you want to lose weight, you have your own cause of weight loss. And with any cause, sabotage can undermine it. Sabotage is defined as "any undermining of a cause." That's why when a woman eats too much, she knows that undermines her weight loss efforts, so she will often use the word "sabotage." She speaks often of self-sabotage.
Have you ever felt like you are sabotaging yourself? Do you know why? Why would you purposefully try to sabotage your own efforts to lose weight...especially when you were motivated at one time? Or why you would even try to create a weight gain?
Because of an unconscious belief that has been directing your thoughts and actions. You are leading yourself in the direction of the belief you picked up in your past that you don't matter. You have unconsciously accepted that belief as truth. It's no one's fault that this happened...especially not yours. It happened unconsciously.
But once you see that you are undermining your own efforts and desires, you have become aware of that unconscious programming. You have actually "awakened", you're conscious of this belief, and that it's been directing your thoughts and actions. So now you can take different action; you can get back in the driver's seat and intentionally decide to believe something different. You can change your beliefs. Beliefs are just thoughts that you've thought over and over so many times you've come to accept them as truth.
What do you want to believe?
I encourage you to believe that YOU DO matter and what YOU want DOES matter. Think about this, remind yourself of this, over and over again. Repeat it to yourself over, and over again. And while you're doing that, have compassion and patience for yourself in the learning-curve. Like you would for a child who was once abused, and now in a place of love and safety...you'd have patience and compassion for that child while she learns her new reality is one of love and safety. Eventually, you will come to accept it as truth. And your actions will follow suit.
This is LOVE in action.
I know how to help you succeed at weight loss, permanently. It's this way...
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Shelley Johnson is the Creator & Founder of The Losing Coach®.