Who Told You You Were Naked?
WARNING. Nudity. It is the state of nakedness being revealed!
And why should I be ashamed of my naked body? I wasn’t born ashamed of my body. I was born naked and quite happy about being naked, until at some point in my toddler years, I learned running around naked was not appropriate. Hence, began my conditioning to be ashamed of my body. And I have been ashamed of revealing my naked body ever since. (But not as much as I used to be. See my brave photo to left.) I become less ashamed of my body the more I realize that I haven’t done anything wrong.
See the idea of being ashamed of your body comes from the original Bible story. Whether you believe in it literally or not, is completely up to you. Literally or metaphorically, the story paints a picture that is revealing (no pun intended) of our feelings about our bodies and where our shame comes from.
The story, as I recall (and I’m no Bible scholar) started with Adam and Eve living happily and care-free in the Garden of Eden, unashamed of their naked bodies. They were not even aware they were naked. It was only their natural state and nothing to be ashamed of.
Then, they “sinned” against God. “Sin” meant they did something wrong. They had eaten of the fruit they were commanded not to eat of. All of a sudden, they became aware of their naked bodies and they were ashamed. So they covered up. God asked them “Who told you you were naked?”
The answer – nobody. Adam and Eve weren’t told by anyone they were naked. As soon as they felt they had done something wrong and anticipated coming under judgment, they felt ashamed and wanted to cover up.
And so it was when we were all toddlers… as we were running around naked, all delighted as a free bird could be, and all of a sudden, we were corrected and informed to put our clothes on. (And as it should be, our parents were only properly acclimating us into societal norms of wearing clothes. It’s all good.) It was during these moments, that we started feeling that we were doing something wrong. We were, after all, being corrected and disciplined by our parents to stop running around naked. We were becoming aware that we were doing something wrong, and we started feeling ashamed. It was our “first sin” and we actually all reacted the exact same way Adam and Eve did in the story – with shame.
Now broaden this and know that it’s not just about being ashamed of our naked bodies, but our bodies in general. Feeling ashamed of your body, naked or not, comes from the absorption of judgment. It is through the slow absorption of receiving message after message that we’ve done something wrong. From the way you look, to the things you’ve done…. if you believe you’ve done something wrong, you will naturally feel ashamed of your body. (It’s a pre-programmed response in your brain.)
And the more ashamed of your body you become, the more you will cover it up. You will hide it, you will be embarrassed of it, and most likely gain weight because of it. The absorption of judgment creates a chain of events in the heart and mind that increases the appetite. This is the emotional component of gaining weight.
So how can you experience the removal of this judgment and re-program the brain to decrease your appetite and lose weight? Sign up now for my Online Coaching or Private Coaching. I can help you to achieve the weight loss you desire!
The body you dream of is underneath you right now. I promise, it is.
Well obviously, underneath a few layers of fat you want to lose, but primarily... underneath judgment.
Yes. I can almost guarantee this.
Unless you were put in handcuffs and force fed to overeat, the very subconscious reason for your weight gain is judgment.
So we must take it off.
Remove all judgment.
Judgment is an invisible weight on your shoulders. When you walk around with weight on your shoulders, you walk around with a heavy heart. A heavy heart manifests into a heavy body.
You have to take off the judgment.
We have to lighten your heart. We have to lighten this load on your shoulders.
Take it off! You have to take this off. You have to. This is not for feel good fuzzies. It's really not. I'm not trying to just make you feel good. I'm trying to help you tap into the power inside of you that will help you.
And the power inside of you that's going to help you is the restoration of LOVE. The way to restore that LOVE is to remove the judgment, take it off of you.
I can help you with that. This is what I do. And if you don't believe me and how effective this is in helping you lose weight, check out these before and after photos.
You can begin removing judgment for yourself right now. You may not even be aware of consciously what all this judgment is. That's okay, just get started and enjoy the benefits of losing weight!
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I'm here to help you. My passion is helping women remove judgment and restore love so they can lose weight. I know I can help you.
Weight Loss Starts in The Bedroom
This blog is for women. Adult, middle-aged women like myself. For women in a loving relationship where sex can be wonderful and life-giving. If this doesn't apply to you, then... don't read ahead.
First, a few disclaimers: I am not a sex therapist. I am not a doctor, relationship counselor, judge, or moral code compass. I am not telling anyone to have sex, not have sex, or why or how to have sex. Far be it from me to tell anyone how to enjoy their own personal life. This blog is about weight loss. By reading ahead, you acknowledge the above disclaimers. :)
Think weight loss starts in the kitchen or grocery store or has anything to do with food? What if I told you... it doesn't start with food at all, it starts with you and your body.
And so... it may start in the bedroom.
Yes. Weight loss starts in the bedroom.
That's right, I'm talking about sex. After all, it is where new life, in general, is conceived.
Women about to begin your weight loss journey... you are beginning a new life.
So WHAT in the world does sex have to do with weight loss? Well, a lot. And it's not because it burns calories or releases wonderful stress-releasing endorphins that make you feel better. After all, I can tell you for me (as is the case for a lot of women), I was previously gaining weight while I was having sex with my husband... so there blows those theories.
So what about my sex life helped me lose weight? It has nothing to do with the physical act of sex.
Then what? What about sex can facilitate successful weight loss for you?
Here it is:
Your ATTITUDE about sex!
Okay... I'm going to get really blunt here... it's about LOVING sex!! I am going to speak bluntly and directly, because I know how so many women around my age feel about sex. It's a chore, a weapon, or leaves you cold. Whatever it is, a lot of times, it's not a good feeling.
Maybe your church has indoctrinated you into believing you must fulfill your man's needs no matter what you are feeling out of proper submission. Then giving your body to sex is a chore. And chores are no fun.
Maybe you've fallen into the habit of manipulating your man with sex, using it as a weapon. Then using your body for sex is a weapon. And weapons hurt people.
Maybe you've just completely turned yourself off to sex for one reason or another and your sex life is as cold as ice. Then abstaining your body from sex is like a freezer. And freezers leave you frozen.
If your sex life is in one of these three states - a chore, a weapon, or a freezer, then I'm guessing you're NOT loving sex and your sex life is not helping you lose weight.
Let me explain. Why must you LOVE sex? Because of what that means to love sex. It means you are not having sex out of obligation (a chore), to hurt anyone (a weapon) or feeling frozen (like a freezer). Because trust me, the only way to truly love sex is when none of those things apply. It means you are having sex out of your own desire, purity of heart, and because it makes you feel warm all over!!
Now here is how this all translates into your weight loss success!!!
When a woman gives her body in sex out of obligation, there will soon not only be resentment, but the belief that her body is not her own. Not having sex out of obligation communicates to your brain that you own your own body. When you take complete ownership of your body, your decisions in managing your weight will reflect this ownership. (This is why often young mothers who have children hanging on them all the time, feel like their bodies are not their own, and they have a really difficult time managing their weight.) Never have sex out of obligation because only you own your body and only you get to decide when you want to have sex. Observe the difference in how you manage your weight when you have 100% ownership of your body.
When a woman uses her body in sex as a weapon, she has the awareness, even if only subconsciously, that her intentions are selfish and the belief that she is bad because of that. Not using sex to hurt anyone communicates to your brain that your heart is pure. When your heart is pure, you know you can trust it. When you trust your heart, your decisions in managing your weight will reflect this trust. Never use sex as a weapon because you don't have intentions to hurt someone and you are not bad; your heart is pure. You can trust your heart and respect all your desires. Respecting your desire to lose weight will mean you lose weight!
When a woman turns herself off from sex and abstains, she steps into the freezer and will soon find herself frozen, completely closed off from receiving physical love. There is just nothing good about this at all. Nothing warm, nothing life-giving, no communication of love for her body to receive. Physical love is simply love communicated physically. That's what sex can give you - the opportunity to receive love, love communicated directly to your body. Why put that in the freezer? Are you saving it for the future? Well, last I checked, all of us middle-aged women aren't getting any younger... just sayin'. :) Step out of the freezer and give your body some heat. Watch the pounds melt off!
So what does this loving sex attitude really mean for you, your body and your brain?
It means you love your body. It means you love the experience of sex for yourself. You love your body through receiving sex and you love your partner through giving your body, creating an infinite loop of giving and receiving. This infinity loop communicates powerful messages to your brain.
If you really love sex, not only does it communicate that YOU are worthy of LOVE, but also that you have permission to take pleasure in your body. Taking pleasure in your body means you seek for it to please you with the way it looks and feels! Weight loss! :)
I want you to LOVE having sex. I want you to LOVE it for yourself. Enjoy it for yourself. Receive it as an expression of LOVE. An expression of LOVE for you and your body.
Make love for yourself, women. Make love for yourself. And that's all I got to say about that.
Again, not a sex therapist. Not a moral code compass. Just my personal beliefs. And experiences with successful weight loss.
I can help you experience successful weight loss! That's what I specialize in! :)
I am here to help you get the body you want... and maybe enjoy your sex life more! ;)
Oh The Stories My Body Could Tell!
Wouldn't you love to know?!
From my C-section scar to the pin in my ear, my body has a lot of stories it could tell.
But it's not what my body could tell you... it's about what it does tell you. See, my body speaks. Actually, every body's body speaks.
75% of communication is non-verbal and believe me, you... you can say whatever you want with your lips, but if your body speaks something differently than your mouth, people will believe your body over what you say.
That's why you would never hire a small, light-weight body-guard, or an over-weight weight loss coach! Your body will always speak louder than your words!
So what? Well... every time you meet new people or walk into a room, your body is communicating. Do you know what your body is communicating for you?
I know what my body is communicating. When I walk into a room, my body communicates I take care of myself; it is communicating that I am confident, secure, and comfortable in my own skin. It actually is communicating all 7 steps of The Losing Coach Process - Power, Truth, LOVE, Faith, Hope, Self-Control and Grace.
Ultimately, it communicates - I am OKAY with me.
And that creates authenticity. And now whatever I say, in accordance with what my body is communicating, is 100% authentic.
I can help you achieve the body that will be 100% authentic to you! That's what I specialize in! :)
Begin with 28 Days to Permanent Weight Loss and start the process now! I'm here to help!
Shelley Johnson is the Creator & Founder of The Losing Coach®.