What makes us who we are today? What has determined all that we are (or not) - our weight, our appearances/what we see in the mirror, our positions/statuses, our relationships, careers, successes, accomplishments, and all of our experiences of LOVE, affirmation and appreciation we receive (or not) today?
One thing - our decisions. I think about who and what I would've and could've been, for better or for worse, with different decisions I had the opportunity to make along the way in my life.
I could've been an olympic gymnast (had I not quit gymnastics), I could be living in Taiwan right now (had I married my Chinese boyfriend), I could be unhealthy, depressed, addicted, drugged up on pain meds and anti-depressants (had I not decided - no thank you). For better or worse, I could be an entirely different person right now, had I made different decisions in my life. From where I am living, to the relationships I have, to the image I see in the mirror... I am who I am because of all the decisions I have made along the way.
Today, I am a middle-aged woman living a middle-class lifestyle, in the mid-western United States, with grown children I'm extremely proud of, a healthy body, after a 90 lb weight loss, (that I'm pretty proud of, considering all the medical issues and surgeries I've endured), with good friends, and a solid purpose in my life. With all that said, I can say, I feel accomplished (for me, and that's all that matters.)
So whether it's about your weight or any other area of your life - you will always be the result of the accumulation of decisions you make over time.
And let me qualify all of this by saying - there are no judgment calls to be made here, there are not necessarily "good" or "bad" decisions... so remove the judgment. You are not bad if you are overweight or depressed or feel unaccomplished. You are actually quite good and full of LOVE. I know, because I have felt that way too. So remove all the judgment, it's simply not true. There are simply just decisions you get to make that will steer you in different directions. And you get to decide.
Shelley Johnson is the Creator & Founder of The Losing Coach®.