Perhaps you don't have exclusive control over your check book, and you must discuss the finances you want to invest in your weight loss with your husband or significant other. It's a bit daunting to you, as you fear the usual "How much more money are you going to waste on another diet program that won't work?" or "Why do you even need any help doing this?", "Geez, can't you just do what I do?", "You have a gym membership, just go to the gym!" Whatever it is you anticipating hearing, the thought of once again submitting to their approval for you to do this for yourself, leaves you feeling helpless. Here is how to have this conversation and achieve the outcome you want from it.
I once had a woman in my office who told me how wonderful her husband was, but bottom line, he controlled the check book because he made all the money. Here's what I coached her to do:
1. The very first thing that you must do is open his ears to hear you. The way to do that - express gratitude. Say this (in your own words to him): "Thank you for providing us financial security."
2. The next thing you must do is tell him you are not wasting money on "another weight loss program" - You are investing in YOURSELF.
3. And finally, tell him what it will give him: "This will provide me emotional security."
Now tell me, what man doesn't want that?? What man doesn't want his wife to have emotional security? A woman's emotional security is to a man what financial security is to a woman! Say these words to him and he will want you to do this for yourself! "I want to provide for you my emotional security."
It's simple and here it is all together: "I appreciate what you have provided for me - financial security. I am not wasting money on another weight loss program, I am investing in myself. I am investing in myself because I want to provide for you my emotional security."
If he wants more details, please let me him know the end result for him will be a thin, happy, sexy, beautiful, and confident wife! Could he really want any more? Ask him. It's worth the investment in yourself!
Shelley Johnson is the Creator & Founder of The Losing Coach®.