Have you ever been obsessed with someone? Some thing? I have...
In everything I do with Losing Coach®, from the process I created, to the personal coaching, I seek to honor and speak one thing - truth.
And so let me communicate more truth. The truth is, women are obsessed with their bodies. Their own bodies, not the bodies in magazines, not the bodies on the big screen - their own, very own bodies, they are obsessed with. It's truth. They tell me. All the time. The ones that tell everyone else to "embrace their curves" or "it's all about that bass" (translation: don't worry about your body) tell me in private, in their own words, how obsessed they are with their own bodies.
And...I'm obsessed with my body. Every day. Every single day.
And somehow this simple inherent truth about what it means to be a woman - to nurture, care, comfort, provide, protect, LOVE, and give life with our bodies has now become a hidden, shameful thing every woman must walk around with - "I'm obsessed with it, but I shouldn't be. Shame on me for being so concerned about this." And yet... it's the deepest longing of her heart to have a beautiful body.
This message of shame comes from our family, our friends, our very well-meaning loved ones that love us very much. They are trying to make us feel better about ourselves when they tell us we are just fine the way we are. To which I say, "Thank you very much, but it doesn't make me any less obsessed about my body. Now I feel bad that I feel this way... what is wrong with me?"
THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU! I know this for a fact. This is truth. There is nothing wrong with you! EVERYTHING you feel about your body, from your dissatisfaction to your obsession is TRUTH resonating inside of you that YOU were created to BE BEAUTIFUL. There is nothing wrong with that! YOU were MEANT to be beautiful! Every woman is. That is TRUTH.
When a client shames herself for "being obsessed" with her weight loss success (yes, they successfully lose weight through Losing Coach® and then feel guilty they are so obsessed with their success!) it makes me smile. I smile and have this conversation with her:
Me: "Let me ask you this. Does your husband work?"
Me: "How often does he bring home a paycheck?"
Her: "Once a week."
Me: "I suppose you like his paycheck, correct?"
Her: "Well yes, of course."
Me: "So he works every day?"
Me: "Of every week?"
Me: "Month after month?"
Me: "Year after year?"
Me: "Geez.... sounds like he's obsessed with that paycheck!" :)
Men are free to pursue careers and money and success and nobody shames them for it. I'm here to tell you - YOU are FREE to pursue success in a beautiful body and not be shamed for it! Come talk to me!!!
Shelley Johnson is the Creator & Founder of The Losing Coach®.