Listen to me...it's me. The 220 lb overweight/obese/fat woman you can't help but feel slightly disgusted with - none of your comments help me. Don't tell me I'd be so pretty if I lost weight. Do not talk to me about what I should and shouldn't eat. It's insulting and condescending. It makes me feel worse...and then gain more weight. Your attention on me creates more anxiety for me and increases my appetite.
NOW listen to me...it's me. The 133 lb attractive woman you can't help but feel drawn to. I'm telling you that what the scale says is not a discipline issue, not a morality issue, not a character issue, and not a right/wrong issue. My weight loss came from my appetite decreasing. My appetite is an involuntary reaction to experiences that either increase or decrease it. I have no more self-discipline than I had before, no higher character, no greater morals. I simply trained my brain. I trained my brain to make decisions from what I know, from what I believe and how I react. This has regulated my appetite. That's all.
At 220 lbs I simply needed to respect my own brain, my ability to make my own decisions.
At 133 lbs, I am not pretty because I've lost weight. What the world sees is me feeling beautiful because I respect myself.
Shelley Johnson is the Creator & Founder of The Losing Coach®.