I know how frustrated and overwhelmed I felt at this time in my life. I was only 31 years old when this picture was taken, but my stance communicates a weathered and worn out body. I felt much older, like my body had already bore the burden of many, many years my senior. And it had. This was 2001, the year of one of my near-deaths - I almost died from bleeding out on the table from a nicked artery in an elective surgery (shame how I had been deceived into believing there was something wrong with me and so, asked the doctor to go exploring to find out what was wrong with me and it almost cost me my life - a very real story for me, and quite the allegorical story for women everywhere - but that's a blog for another time.)
Here I was overweight and trapped. Of course, I knew how I was gaining weight, but not why. The how and the why are two completely different things when it comes to your weight. I knew I was gaining weight by spending too many nights on the couch eating ice cream and potato chips, but I didn't know why. WHY was I letting myself go? Why didn't I care about my body, my health, or my appearance? WHY was all this happening to me and I couldn't pick myself up? Seems like there would be many reasons, but there is only one. The only reason WHY any woman gains weight is - the absorption of judgment.
Judgment. It's every which direction you turn, and when you accept it, you absorb it. When you absorb it, your body will manifest it. The judgment I absorbed - I thought I was lazy, undisciplined, selfish, and quite honestly, just simply, very fat and ugly. The good news - I learned to lose the judgment and protect myself. Learn to lose the judgment and protect yourself from it, and your body will also manifest that. There are a plethora of ways we've gained weight, but only one why. You have done nothing wrong by gaining weight. Nothing wrong at all. I was not any of those things I thought I was. Neither are you. If you are overweight - there's only one reason why - the absorption of judgment. If you want help losing that, that's what we do at Losing Coach. Lose the lies! It's this way!
Shelley Johnson is the Creator & Founder of The Losing Coach®.